While my husband’s death was expected, it is never easy when it actually occurs. Perhaps 2 years ago, I was in touch with Neptune Society in Florida where I live, and I had a basic understanding of the service being offered, did not take a contract at the time, and the actual death occurred New Jersey. Alvin Chan was a blessing! From the moment I reached him, we were able to communicate easily, he understood everything I was trying to achieve overall, and he worked with me seamlessly to make it happen. There were many moving parts, but on his end, he achieved everything ahead of schedule, was patient when I had delays, and especially the delay of our chosen urn being shipped up from home in Florida, but he was steadfast in supporting our wishes and everything went without a moment of anxiety. I am proud of the work that Neptune does and so grateful for the kindness, compassion, and professionalism showed by Alvin to my family. He happened to be a great guy, extremely warm and caring. It was a pleasure to have him available to us, and he went out of his way to accommodate me including meeting with me in my lobby when necessary. I couldn’t have asked for more! Accolades to Neptune Cremation Society in Paramus and Alvin Chan.
A memorial after cremation is a service to honor the life of the deceased and pay respects. Cremation memorial services are a common practice, increasing with the incidence of cremation itself, and there are specific details to consider when planning a cremation memorial.
Cremation Memorial Services
The plan for a cremation memorial service has elements of a funeral service: an opening greeting, a prayer, a eulogy, the sharing of memories by friends or family, and appropriate music. Sometimes a guest will read Psalm 23 to reflect on the idea that God’s oversight follows a person through the course of life. The order of service is largely at the discretion of the family of the departed. With a cremation memorial the urn is displayed on a table centered at the front of the room. The family often places a large, framed picture of the departed next to the urn. They can be surrounded with funeral flowers. Again, the details of a cremation memorial are largely at the preference of the family. If the deceased was in the military, the urn might have a display of medals or a uniform placed in front of it.
Cemeteries may accommodate a graveside cremation memorial service. Some headstones are fitted with a space for an urn so that the departed can be buried in a traditional grave plot. At the graveside, it is customary for family and friends to gather for a prayer and a Scripture reading. If the graveside gathering is in addition to a service in a chapel or mortuary, the graveside service is usually more brief. An employee of the cemetery helps the family place the urn appropriately. Afterwards family and guests often spread flowers on the site. Cremation ceremonies do not require music at the graveside, though the family may choose to play music.
The memorial after cremation is a common practice allowing families to celebrate a loved one’s life in a way that closely resembles a traditional funeral while accommodating this specific need.
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