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Table of Contents:

  1. Introduction
  2. Coping with Grief: What to Expect
  3. Agreeing on Final Arrangements: Compromise is Key
  4. Funeral Planning for a Parent
  5. Understanding a Parent’s Will and Assets as a Family
  6. Handling Family Property When a Parent Has Passed
  7. Conclusion

Introduction

There are many factors to consider following a parent’s passing — emotionally, legally, and logistically. This guide aims to help adult children handle the planning of final arrangements and their own emotions with limited to no conflict amongst each other.

Losing a parent is often overwhelming. In addition to coping with their grief, the children are often left in charge of planning the funeral as well as handling the various legal details. This can make an already devastating situation more stressful, and often, siblings end up butting heads throughout the process. However, with the right levels of compassion, compromise, and consideration, families can limit the additional pain sometimes brought on by carrying out final arrangements.

If you’ve recently lost a parent and have run into conflict with your siblings, or if you simply fear that conflict is on the horizon, this guide is for you. It will discuss the many emotions and reactions you and your siblings may be experiencing, and how those emotions may come into play when it comes to planning services and managing the legalities. Never forget that in addition to being sensitive to the feelings of others, you should also take special care of yourself during this trying time. Make sure you have someone close by for support, and don’t be afraid to consider grief counseling to help you sort out your own emotions.

Coping with Grief: What to Expect

People react to death in all kinds of ways, and the death of a parent can be especially volatile. It isn’t uncommon for a person to feel a range of emotions in a single day while another remains in shock and disbelief. Everyone is going to feel how they feel, and that’s OK. What’s important is for everyone to respect and accept that there will be differences.

Common reactions to a loss include:

  • Feeling “numb”
  • Denial
  • Depression
  • Anger
  • Confusion
  • Guilt

There is no “right way” to grieve. These feelings might pop up in any order at any time, and someone may quickly transition from one intense emotion to another. Some people might experience each and every reaction, and others only one or two. Or none.

Try not to focus on how anyone “should” feel. You might think you can speak to your siblings’ situations because you’ve known them your entire life and are experiencing the same loss — but just as you had your own special relationship with your parents, so did they, and it leaves endless variables to how they might be feeling. Focus instead on supporting them no matter how they feel, and be honest about your own emotions. Even if you aren’t close enough to confide the details, simply letting them know where you stand can prevent a lot of miscommunication later on.

The loss of a parent can cause physical reactions, as well, including:

  • Upset stomach
  • Loss of appetite
  • Exhaustion
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Difficulty breathing
  • Anxiety attacks
  • Aches and pains (including back, chest, and head)

For some, the grief alone is enough to make them sick. For others, it may be a combination of grief and the anxiety over executing the will, dividing up assets, and/or selling the family home.

Physical Reactions That Can Be Caused By The Loss Of A Parent

 

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No matter the exact source, stress can sneak up on a person, so be the one to make sure everyone stays hydrated and nourished. Set the example by drinking plenty of water and taking the time to eat a meal — even if you aren’t particularly hungry. Your refrigerator is likely well-stocked by loved ones, so gently remind your siblings there’s plenty to eat.

If everyone is together at the house, set out plates and some of the food. No one has to eat, but seeing food can wake up an empty stomach. It’s common for people to get so caught up in a major event that they overlook their own needs, so make sure you’re giving people easy opportunities to take care of themselves.

 

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Communication will be an important part of your interactions with your siblings, so keep the lines open and be honest. Be sensitive to how others feel but give them the opportunity to respect how you feel, too. For example, your brother may not have realized you’d be hurt when he said he was relieved your mother had finally ended her battle with cancer. Let him know you’re not ready to see it that way yet, and ask that he be mindful of how he talks about it around you.

A knee-jerk reaction is understandable, but try to pause before responding to a situation that upsets you. You’re absolutely allowed to feel whatever you feel, but it’s likely that no harm was intended, so try to hold your tongue until you’ve had some time to process.

If you do speak out in the heat of the moment, forgive yourself. Find an opportunity later on to apologize to your sibling, and let them know you’re feeling overwhelmed. They’ll likely understand, and you can both move past the incident.

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Agreeing on Final Arrangements: Compromise is Key

One of the first questions you’ll have to deal with is the kind of burial your parent requested. He or she may have stated their wishes in their will, or you may have discussed the topic prior to their passing. Even if they were prepared for it, your brothers or sisters may be uncomfortable about whichever burial process your parent requested. Perhaps even you have your reservations. Remember, though, that your parent put a great deal of thought into how they’d leave the world, so it’s crucial that you respect their wishes.

If your parent left no clear direction on how they want their remains to be handled — nor a spouse to give you insight — discuss the topic with your siblings privately. Avoid bringing in spouses or non-immediate family. What do each of you think your parent would have wanted?

Had any of you ever spoken — even hypothetically — about the topic with him or her? If no one is sure, consider what route the family has traditionally taken. If the family has always done cremations in the past and each sibling is comfortable with it, for example, you might be able to work with someone familiar and sensitive to your family’s situation.

Before finalizing any details, be sure that all concerns from each sibling have been addressed and respected. Don’t hammer the issue, but let everyone know that you want to be certain that no one will be upset moving forward. It’s an extremely personal decision, and not everyone will be eager to share their emotions on the topic.

If any additional issues do arise, hear out your sibling and do your best to understand. If possible, take the night to sleep on it and see where everybody stands in the morning. Do your best to make sure everyone has input, and that no one will face trauma over the burial as well as the loss itself.

Funeral Planning for a Parent

First, embrace the fact that memorial services can be any way you want — and there doesn’t have to be only one. If one sibling wants a traditional viewing service but another would rather have a celebration of life at the parent’s favorite restaurant, do both. Plan around each other so nobody has to choose between services and invite loved ones to say goodbye in whichever way they like, or both.

 

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Come up with a plan that everyone contributes to. Compromise where you’re willing, but stand up for what matters to you. (If the flowers seem to mean a lot more to your sister and you’d rather focus on the scrapbook anyway, take the win.)

Divide up responsibilities evenly, but don’t take on more than you can handle. Trust in your siblings to get things done, but check in to see how everything is going and if they could use some help. If they become defensive, let them know you’re only hoping to lighten their load. And, of course, don’t forget to ask for help, too!

If one sibling seems to be taking a backseat to planning, keep in mind that he or she may still be struggling to grasp the situation and thus seem disinterested. Consistently ask for their input and don’t exclude them from any major decision. See if they’d be interested in one big project — like writing the obituary and reaching out to local newspapers — or if they’d prefer to work alongside someone else. Just because they’re quiet doesn’t mean they want to be alone, so give the option but don’t force them into solitude.

Just as there doesn’t have to be one service, there doesn’t have to be a single eulogy, either; each sibling should have the opportunity to speak if they wish. Try not to get too caught up in the idea of who goes first or speaks the longest. If one sibling has thoughts to express but doesn’t feel comfortable to stand up, offer to read on his or her behalf. And don’t be put off if anyone opts out of both options — they may simply lack the composure given the circumstances or even the words to express themselves. Regardless, it is up to them how to grieve.

Understanding a Parent’s Will and Assets as a Family

Whether or not you’re prepared for exactly what it says, the will is often a source of conflict following the death of a parent. Keep in mind that your mother or father likely didn’t make any decisions lightly, so try to consider what the reasoning could be before growing too upset. Perhaps it only looks like your sibling got a bigger share, but you’ve forgotten about the car down payment your parent helped you with several years ago. You might even get further down the will and realize you were left a valuable possession in lieu of a larger inheritance. Refrain from making judgments either way until you’ve heard all the details.

 

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Inheritance is a sensitive issue, and it often aggravates underlying resentment among siblings. Disputes over who the “golden child” is (and “always has been”) can make the contents of a will seem skewed, even if the parent genuinely believed they were acting fairly. Further, it’s often not the high-value items that cause problems; instead, sibling fights usually revolve around sentimental possessions. Whether one child expected an item to be left to them instead of who it was passed down to, or no specific directions were left about the item and every sibling wants it, there are constant opportunities for debate.

Do your best to respect the contents of the will as-is. If you’re absolutely convinced that something is askew, take careful consideration before pursuing legal action. These kinds of disputes can stretch on for years and have detrimental consequences to the entire family. If you do take things to court, don’t lose sight of the fact that you’re dealing with family. Avoid major arguments that could lead to words you’ll forever regret, and stick to whatever the judge decides.

When it comes to dividing remaining personal assets, look for every opportunity to compromise. If you and your sister have both always loved your mother’s pearl brooch, for instance, consider sharing it. If you live close, you can simply trade it off as occasions arise.

Faraway siblings can use holidays and vacations to lend custody every few months. If you’re worried a brother or sister might sell an item without your consent, draft and sign a legal document specifying the terms of your agreement. Remind anyone who gets defensive that the document protects all of you, and is the only way to keep it fair and impartial.

If there are multiple large-scale possessions to divide up, consider consulting a lawyer who can give you unbiased, accurate input from the very start. It certainly helps keep things fair to have a neutral third party, but do be vocal when something is important to you. Hear out the concerns of your siblings, as well, and see if the lawyer can help negotiate a compromise as needed.

 

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Tip: If there are multiple large-scale possessions to divide up, consider consulting a lawyer. It certainly helps keep things fair to have a neutral third party oversee the process.

Handling Family Property When a Parent Has Passed

Selling the family home is a heartbreaking idea no matter your age, and it certainly isn’t made easier when brought on by the death of a parent. If there are no specific instructions, you and your siblings should consult with a lawyer about options. Much of the decision-making may depend on everyone’s proximity to the home — if one sibling lives close and will be dealing with most of the paperwork and arrangements, they may request a larger piece of the sale profits for their troubles, for example.

 

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You may find that your brothers or sisters aren’t ready to sell the home right away, so don’t rush into it. You can start the cleaning and inspection process without actually having to put it on the market, so be strategic but sensitive. Don’t make any major changes — like re-painting or re-carpeting — without everyone’s consent and awareness.

At the other end, if you find that you are having trouble with the idea of selling the family home, speak up. Your siblings will likely respect that you need some time to adjust to so many major changes and, who knows, might even be relieved you said something first. If they aren’t so understanding, simply ask them to respect your feelings and hold off on trying to sell for at least a month or so. Explain what a major loss this is to you, and in the darkness of your parent’s passing, it’s too much to deal with all at once.

Compassion and honesty will be your most valuable assets throughout the process of laying your parent to rest, especially when it comes to your siblings. If things become especially emotional, consider going to family grief counseling for professional help in sorting things out. Remember that healing will take time for everyone, and that even if hurtful words were traded at the funeral, you can always repair and rebuild with your siblings.

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Conclusion

The death of a parent will bring on a rollercoaster of emotions for everyone, so know what to expect and respect how each of your siblings are feeling. Look out for one another, and don’t forget to take care of yourself. When it comes to the legal and planning aspects, be respectful of your parent’s wishes.

Try not to let the physical and monetary issues escalate because of heightened emotions — show your siblings compassion and be honest about your own feelings. Take each step of the process day by day, and lean on each other for support. With time and grace, the sun will break through your clouds of despair, and together you’ll be able to move forward and honor your parent’s memory.

Cremation Rate Rises

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A new study by the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), the world’s leading association representing funeral directors, has shown that for the first time in history, Americans are choosing cremation services over burial services to honor their loved ones. The 2016 NFDA Cremation and Burial Report shows how the country has adopted cremation in 2015 as the preferred method of caring for those who have passed away, which states are choosing cremation services, and how the cremation rate for the country is expected to rise over time.

The cremation rate in America for 2015 is projected to be 48.5 percent according to the study, and the burial rate for 2015 is projected to be 45.4 percent. In 2005, the NFDA conducted a similar study and found the cremation rate was only 32.3 percent and the burial rate was 61.4 percent. The cremation rate in America has been growing steadily since the latter half of the 20th century, and this new study shows that by 2030 nearly 3 out of 4 Americans will choose cremation if the trend continues as expected. Cremation is most popular in the western states, Florida, and the Northeast, and burial is more popular in the South and the Midwest. Some states, such as Hawaii, boast even higher cremation rates. The 2015 projected cremation rate in Hawaii is 73.3 percent, and is expected to reach 86.4 percent by 2030.

The 2016 NFDA Cremation and Burial Report also featured information concerning Canada’s choices in funeral services. Over half of all Canadians are choosing cremation services with a cremation rate of 65.5 percent and a burial rate of 33.2 percent. The cremation rate is expected to rise in Canada as well to 89.4 percent by 2035.

The study also found that those who chose cremation were very likely to commemorate their loved one’s life with some kind of funeral or memorial service. With 36.6 percent of those surveyed associating a cremation with memorial services, 10.4 percent associating cremation with a viewing and memorial service, and 7.4 percent associating cremation with no service at all, families have found new ways to remember their loved ones.

The cremation rate is rising in America for numerous reasons including cost, religious acceptance, environmental concerns, and a more transient society. The price for funeral services has been rising over the years, and now a casket for a traditional burial can cost over a thousand dollars alone, which does not include a grave marker, funeral service, plot space, or other fees associated with traditional burials. Cremation requires far fewer moving parts, so cremations tend to be less expensive than traditional burials. Numerous religions have also begun to accept cremation over the past few decades as a valid way to remember a loved one, giving many traditional families a new option for funeral services. Cremations also require less land use and use fewer toxic chemicals in the process of preparing a loved one for a service than a burial does, leading many environmentally-conscious families to choose cremation for their loved ones. Additionally, America’s transient society is contributing to the higher cremation rate and has even changed family dynamics, altering the entire process of funeral and memorial planning. With family members and friends living across many states and even many countries, people are turning to cremation as a more flexible option.

As America’s most trusted cremation provider, Neptune Society is dedicated to leading the nation in quality cremation services and caring for each loved one that comes into their care. In addition to caring for families at the time of need, Neptune Society specializes in assisting people make end-of-life decisions in advance through cremation preplanning. For more information about cremation services near you, find a nearby location and talk to one of Neptune Society’s cremation experts today.

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Going green involves paying close attention to how our decisions impact the environment. Is a product you buy made from biodegradable materials? Did the manufacturer of your smartphone source components responsibly? If you, as a consumer, take it upon yourself to become more conscious of the environment, businesses will take notice and adjust their practices accordingly.

If your loved one has always been environmentally conscientious, you should know the cremation process has less impact on ecosystems than traditional burials. U.S. Funerals noted the latter process involves burying embalming chemicals and sometimes steel or concrete depending on the casket’s composition.

However, there are ways to make cremation even more environmentally gentle. What options do you have?

What You Can Do to Increase Cremation’s Eco-Friendliness

While much of the cremation process will be out of your hands, there are decisions you can make that will lead to a green cremation. Beyond The Pall’s Caroline Vuyadinov outlined three options that can reduce a cremation’s environmental impact:

  • Dress your loved one appropriately: We’re not talking about what’s socially acceptable. Vuyadinov recommended your loved one wears biodegradable clothing or a shroud when entering the cremation chamber. Fumes from burning synthetic or polyester attire will enter the atmosphere if you neglect to do so.
  • Choose an eco-friendly urn: While granite urns may be appealing, they do come at a cost to the environment. There are plenty of businesses out there offering urns made from eco-friendly materials. Some biodegradable urns even contain seeds, which may add a nice symbolic touch to your loved one’s departure: He or she is contributing to new life.
  • Scatter the ashes: You also have the option of not using an urn at all and simply scattering the ashes in a designated area. Many states require permits to scatter in certain places, so be sure to check with local authorities before spreading your loved one’s ashes.

Growing Trees

If you have a bit of property, you always have the option of scattering your loved one’s ashes close to home. Bios Urn, a biodegradable urn that contains a seed, promises to help families that want to use their loved ones’ ashes to grow trees and keep them close.

How does it work? The Bios Urn is constructed like a cone. At the bottom of the cone are your loved one’s ashes. On top is a prepared soil mix that encourages water flow and mixes with the ashes. Devoid of glues or chemical additives, the urn is completely environmentally friendly.

Imagine planting this urn in your backyard, and watching your loved one’s tree grow as the years pass. It will be a nice reminder that he or she is contributing to life in the wake of their passing.

You have many options when it comes to planning a green cremation. By contributing to the improvement of the environment, your loved one’s legacy can live on.

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Few people are familiar with the intricacies of the funeral and cremation industry. Death certificates, funeral industry jargon, and the process of cremation usually are not brought up until a loved one passes away, and then grieving family members often find themselves confused throughout the funeral process. What forms need to be signed? Why has a cremation been delayed? Who needs to be informed of a death? Neptune Society has helped to answer these questions and more for thousands of families over the years. Through Ask a Funeral Director, families have a new resource to help them learn more about cremation, preplanning, and other aspects of the funeral industry.

Ask a Funeral Director is a series of videos where a licensed funeral director answers common questions about funerals and cremations. Each video is accompanied by a video transcript and a series of written answers by other funeral directors from around the country. Topics covered in the first round of videos include cremation and funeral jargon, cremation paperwork, cremation costs, the cremation process, veteran information, transportation of cremated remains, obituary information, and memorialization.

If a user has a question that is not answered by the Ask a Funeral Director videos, they can also submit a question to be answered by licensed funeral directors in the next round of videos. Those with further questions can simply complete the online form found on the Ask a Funeral Director page to for a chance to have their question featured in the future.

The videos feature James Baron, a licensed funeral director since 1987 who works with families across the country through Neptune Society to ensure that each loved one and family member is treated with respect and care through the tough times following a passing. However, since there are many local details to some of the most commonly asked questions, other funeral directors from around the country – from within Neptune Society and outside of it – have supplied their own responses including Abby Schilling of Richfield, MN; Jessica Watts of Jacksonville, FL; C. A. Banskton of Fort Worth, TX; Michael Sollitto of Charlotte, NC; Laura Anderson of Minneapolis, MN; Noel Hanna of San Francisco, CA; and more.

Neptune Society strives to keep families informed about the intricacies of the cremation process and the funeral industry to help relieve some of the stress caused by a passing or by planning for one’s future. By becoming informed about the cremation process, one can better plan an appropriate memorial for themselves or a loved one by knowing who needs to complete which form and how to utilize benefits that may be available to them.

The Ask a Funeral Director program is available on the Neptune Society website. Feel free to submit any further questions through the form on the Neptune Society website, watch some of Neptune Society’s other FAQ videos, or get in contact with a cremation expert to learn more about the ways Neptune Society cares for its members.

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Although it’s not something most people like to think about, many of us have loved ones entering the twilight years of their lives. You’re probably thinking of having a traditional funeral, but what if you could honor your loved one while they’re alive?

Thankfully, there is a way you can celebrate your loved one’s life with them: host a living funeral. It may sound a bit unorthodox, but you’d be surprised how reassuring such an event is. There are three reasons why your loved one should consider having a living funeral:

1. It Doesn’t Have to Be Formal 
If your loved one wants a living funeral, you don’t have to make it a suit-and-tie affair. He or she had a very fulfilling life, and perhaps doesn’t like the thought of his or her loved ones crying over a casket. Many don’t want to leave their relatives and friends without expressing their appreciation for the presence they had in their lives.

Funeral Trend noted a living funeral doesn’t require a lot of formal, expensive preparation either. Simply invite your loved one’s closest friends and relatives to your home, where you can share stories, plan a big meal and, ultimately, tell your loved one just how much you appreciate him or her.

2. Unconventional Funerals Are Becoming More Common 
There’s a chance your loved one isn’t all that religious, so involving a synagogue, church, or mosque isn’t necessarily a big priority. In fact, he may want to remove the religious element completely.

This isn’t uncommon – cremation services and other such funerals are growing popular among agnostic Americans. The National Funeral Directors Association noted many Americans no longer identify with any religion, which is causing many to gravitate away from traditional services. In 2012, 49.5 percent said they felt religiosity was an important part of a loved one’s funeral, while 42 percent agreed in 2015.

Bottom line: Don’t let the unconventionality of a living funeral deter you from celebrating your loved one today. A living funeral gives your loved one a chance to connect with everyone before they pass away.

3. You Can Add a Creative Element 
Next Avenue’s Deborah Quilter spoke with playwright Lisa D’Amour, who recently wrote a play about a former doyenne who wants to hold a living funeral for herself. The playwright told Quilter friends and relatives of a loved one could hold a concert of sorts, playing music that reflects the loved one’s lifestyle. Another option is to have those who would deliver eulogies simply address the person around which the service revolves.

“I would like folks to speak, and joke and tell stories about me,” said D’Amour.

It’s possible a living funeral may not be for your loved one. Nevertheless, it’s still something to consider, especially if your loved one is the type of person who craves interactions and unique experiences.

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Neptune Society Kansas City is excited to participate in not one, but three events this week to support its community. They will be at the Clay County Health Fair on Thursday, the 2016 Kansas City Grandfamilies Conference on Friday, and the 1st Annual Healthcare Professional Symposium on Saturday. The Neptune Society Kansas City staff is prepared to supply families with the information they need to protect their loved ones and ensure the safety of their legacies.

Neptune Society will start off the week by participating in the Clay County Health Fair on Thursday October 13 from 8:30am to 1:00pm at the North Kansas City YMCA. This tropical-themed event is designed to help senior residents and caregivers to learn about the resources that are available to them including the Council on Aging, Meals on Wheels, nursing homes, hospices, various other medical clinics, and funeral homes. Neptune Society Kansas City Service Manager Julie Walter-Davis will be present to offer seniors a Missouri Bar-approved copy of Medical Power of Attorney and Living Will and notarizing services for the document. Look for Walter-Davis in her unique tropically-themed hat!

Stop by the 2016 Kansas City Grandfamilies Conference this Friday October 14 to see how Neptune Society supports all kinds of families. From 8:30am to noon at the Pleasant Valley Baptist Church in Liberty, MO, members of the community will be able to learn about the unique challenges of raising a child as a grandparent, aunt, uncle, or other relative.

The 2016 Kansas City Grandfamilies Conference is dedicated to providing information and resources to those raising grandchildren, nieces, nephews, or other young relatives. Neptune Society will be hosting a vendor table with relevant information about the conference’s topics including the legal system, caregiver tips, and family resources. The free event will also provide morning refreshments and lunch as well as door prizes for an informative and fun way to start the weekend.

“We feel it is important to inform these families how important it is to have plans in place should something happen to them, and to let them know about different offices throughout the Metro area that have services that can benefit them,” Walter-Davis said.

Neptune Society will also be participating in the First Annual Healthcare Professional Symposia on Saturday October 15 in Overland Park, Kansas. There, Neptune Society will work with other industry leaders including the Healthcare Resorts of Kansas and VITAS Hospice in educating physicians, social workers, and APRN/RN Nurse Case Managers about how to best serve seniors in their later years. There are also opportunities for industry professionals to earn educational credits, as detailed on the event website.

For more information about how Neptune Society Kansas City is participating in these events or to learn more about how they serve families every day contact their office over the phone, online, or in person.

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When was the last time you spoke to your elderly loved one? Do you know what’s happening in his or her life?

What can you do to develop a stronger relationship with your grandparents? Holiday visits aren’t going to cut it, especially if that means you only see them once every few months. Here are a few ways you can reconnect with your elderly family members and maintain a consistent presence in their lives.

  1. Don’t be afraid of spontaneous meals 
    There’s a chance your loved one adheres to a weekly routine, which can be pretty monotonous sometimes. Boredom can lead to depression, especially if your elderly loved one doesn’t get out of the house too often.

So call them up out of the blue and ask them if they’d like to get dinner in the next couple of days. Better yet, ask them if you could come over and cook them a meal. Maybe you could even cook together – that’s a great way develop a stronger bond.

  1. Suggest a yoga session 
    If you want to be a regular part of your elderly loved ones’ lives and like to stay active, see if they’d be interested in joining you for a yoga class. The American Senior Fitness Association noted this practice has helped alleviate lower back pain, high blood pressure, joint flexibility issues and other physical problems common among the elderly. This may be a particularly good option for you if your parent or grandparent has remained active over the years.

 

  1. Help them out around the house
    Home improvements and even regular yard work can take up a better part of the day. Spending a lot of time with your elderly loved one working toward a common goal can certainly bring you closer together. For example, if your grandfather wants to redo his deck, once you finish the project, you’ll both share that mutual feeling of accomplishment.

In addition to these three steps, simply talking to your elderly loved ones on a regular basis will help you develop stronger bonds with them. Ask them questions about their past. You’ll realize your elderly loved ones have some interesting stories about their early years.

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The Raytown Senior Celebration will take place on Saturday, September 24 from 5:00pm to 8:00pm at The Point, 5600 Blue Ridge Cutoff. The theme for this year will be a luau, so seniors are encouraged to wear their Hawaiian shirts, grass skirts, and leis. Music, hula dancing, dinner, dessert, door prizes, and a photo booth will be available at the event, and entertainment will be provided by Hula Hale O’Kiakahi (One House of Hula), a professional hula dancing group.

Neptune Society has also recently been a part of other local events. The location just launched an online preplanning service to assist families who feel comfortable planning final arrangements via the web. In June, Neptune Society Kansas City presented at the Healthcare Navigation: Knowledge Before Crisis seminar. Most recently, Neptune Society has also participated in both the north and the south 2016 Platte County Senior Health Fair on September 22 and 29.

“We like to be involved with the communities that support us,” Neptune Society Kansas City, MO service manager Julie Walter-Davis said.

The caring Neptune Society staff also contributes to the community through its cremation planning services. By allowing families to plan ahead for what they want for themselves someday or helping families efficiently plan a cremation service after a loved one has passed away, Neptune Society greatly respects those in their care and works extensively with families to address any wishes or concerns about the cremation process. With numerous options designed to make cremation planning simple and dignified, Neptune Society can provide affordable cremation services without sacrificing quality of care.

Those interested in seeing what else Neptune Society is working on in their community should visit the Neptune Society website for more information. Feel free to meet the staff at the event,or contact Neptune Society for more information about how one can begin preplanning today. Those who live far from the Kansas City location can look up our other office locations to find out how Neptune Society is becoming a part of their own communities.

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As part of the 2016 Platte County Senior Health Fair & Caregiver Expo, representatives from Neptune Society Kansas City, MO will be providing seniors with information about late-life care, services, and benefits. Neptune Society will be present at both the north (Platte County Community Center North) and south (Riverside Community Center) Platte County Senior Health Fairs from 8:30am to 11:00am on Thursday, September 22 and Thursday, September 29, respectively, to ensure all families in their community have the opportunity to learn about available cremation options.

“It is important to be out in the community making people aware of the Neptune Society and what we offer,” service manager of Neptune Society Kansas City Julie Walter-Davis said.

Visitors to Neptune Society’s table will be greeted by a representative and offered healthy snacks and brochures of information for seniors. They will also host a raffle for a “Snuggle in for the Winter” gift basket that includes soup, crackers, a DVD, a blanket, and a few cookies for dessert.

The 2016 Platte County Senior Health Fair & Caregiver Expo is a gathering of community leaders providing information and services to seniors and their caregivers. With live entertainment, food, door prizes, and 70 exhibitors there will be opportunities for seniors to learn about all aspects of their health and to discover new ways to stay healthy for many years to come.

Some small services will also be provided at the Senior Health Fair & Caregiver Expo, including caregiver support information, flu shots, acupressure, blood pressure checks, bone density analysis, veteran information, slip and fall prevention tips, and balance screenings.

For those who live too far away to go to this event or for those who are looking for information about senior health and caregiver assistance, Neptune Society offers a comprehensive library of articles pertaining to important senior issues including life insurance, grief assistance, Alzheimer’s disease and dementia, funeral planning, cremation, and other topics. With frequent updates, Neptune Society hopes to inform the communities it supports about how to plan for their futures.

In addition to offering seniors and caregivers information about their health and well-being in community events like the Platte County Senior Health Fair and Caregiver Expo, Neptune Society also helps families through the planning process for cremation services. The local staff is dedicated to providing quality and respectful service to the families they serve and the loved ones in their care. Services are provided for both those planning for a loved one who recently passed away and those who wish to clarify their own wishes for cremation services.

For more information about this event, the Kansas City, MO office, or cremation planning, please contact Neptune Society at 1-800-637-8863 or by filling out a contact form on their website.

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In Florida, a durable power of attorney grants an individual, what the state refers to as an “agent,” the authority to act for a principal, according to The Florida Bar. If you were to grant someone, say one of your younger loved ones, power of attorney, he or she would be able to legally look after your affairs in the event you became unable to.

Although it’s not a pleasant thought, there’s a possibility you may become incapable of looking after your finances, assets, or even make decisions regarding your health. As you’d imagine, granting one of your younger loved ones power of attorney isn’t easy. Here are three factors you need to take into account:

  1. Location 
    Ideally, you’d like your agent to be within close proximity to your residence. This enables him or her to address any urgent issues as they arise. Given how easy it is to communicate over the internet nowadays, it’s not imperative that your agent be located nearby, but it is generally preferable, especially if you prefer to stay in close contact.

What if you’re considering moving to Florida but want to sign a power of attorney agreement in another state? According to state law, a power of attorney signed in a different state is valid in Florida provided the agreement complied with the law of the state of execution.

  1. Age and expertise 
    For obvious reasons, you want to ensure the person receiving power of attorney is in good health. Florida law states that if the agent passess away or becomes medically unable to carry out his or her duties, this will terminate or suspend the power of authority.

At the same time, you want to assign agency to someone with plenty of life experience. Emerita Mercado, certified financial planner and trust and estate practitioner at T.E. Wealth, recommended you assess candidates’ investment knowledge and financial management skills. Just because a person is trustworthy doesn’t mean he or she understands the risks of making certain fiscal decisions.

Make sure you can trust someone before assigning them power of attorney.

  1. Trustworthy and assertive 
    Take a look at your family members or very close friends: Which one has always followed through on his or her promises, or at least made the best effort possible fulfill them? Is there anyone in your family who has helped you without having to be asked?

You need an agent who understands the reasoning behind any health care preferences you may have. Before signing the power of attorney, speak with your assumed agent and detail what you would like him or her to do if you were to be mentally unfit to make decisions by yourself.

In addition, ensure your agent will put his or her best foot forward in ensuring you receive the care you require. If the agent suspects that your caregiver isn’t providing the assistance you require, have no doubts whatsoever that he or she will be relentless in the efforts to improve your conditions.

Assigning durable power of attorney isn’t a decision that should be taken lightly. Use this guide for reference and make sure you take your time in finding the right agent for you.